Is there any point being strict to our kids?
Parenting is not an easy topic for anyone and whoever is confident about it or think they know a lot they are probably trying to cover their insecurities or they’re just being selfish. That is to say, that there are other factors that dominate decision-making when it comes to react in a specific way to particular events that have to do with children behaviour.
Take Europe as an example. In the South, warm climate countries,smacking ones kids is a quite common practice if parents think their kids are not obeying to their commands. That is something that northern Europeans do not understand and have completely abolished by legislation into their societies since a while ago. In countries where protestant ethics have shaped societies there is a more liberal and relaxed attitude towards acceptable children behaviour and people seem to be more tolerant compared to the South of Europe.
Kinds are being seen as equal to adults and parents will bring them up as equal without making any discrimination because of their young age. That works when it comes to making the individuals more independent and more responsible of themselves but at the same time creates other problems, of a rather emotional nature, that will show later as those kids will become adults.
Another good example is the kids play. While in the south parents wouldn’t live their kids get dirty while they play, nor they would allow them to walk outdoors without shoes, in the north none of these seems to be an issue. An extreme verbal and sometimes physical punishement would folllow if accidentally breaking those glass vases in the living room, say in Italy, while in Holland the parents would just advice their kid smiling not to do it again. I can still remember my mum’s wrath when I broke an lsa glass that I used as a basket while throwing my little basketball in it. After all those years, and being a parent myself, I cannot find any reasoning into intimidating and hurting my kids just because they accidentally broke those glassware.
In my opinion there’s no better or worse attitude towards acceptable kids behaviour and what can be tolerated or not. It’s more about how parents can control their anger and not try to transmit to their kids, their neurosis causes byu their daily routine.
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